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How to Know If Libra Man Is Serious about You – Ask Him Exactly This

It can be difficult sometimes to understand a Libra man and his motives. He seems wishy-washy or unclear when it comes to his feelings. There are reasons behind this. Keep reading on how to know if a Libra man is serious about you. By asking him something in particular, you may get the knowledge you need.

What Makes Him Confusing

Before I let you know what you should ask him to find out where his head is at with you, let me explain why he seems elusive or frustrating. The Libra man is a complex guy.

He’s intelligent, handsome, charismatic, and easy to feel comfortable around. Most people really enjoy his company and if you are a woman who is dating him or into him, you’ll totally relate.

Libra men seem very confident and sure of what they’re doing. However when they start to get closer to someone, they start to appear to be somewhat flaky or indecisive.

When he’s trying to figure out if someone is the right one or a woman he could spend his life with, he gets really nervous and his confidence goes out the window no matter how hard he tries to fight it.

Libra men take a very long time to make a decision about pretty much anything in their lives. Relationships are really no different. In fact, relationships make him even more flustered.

Basically he starts to get “cold feet” when he starts to really feel for someone because as confident as he comes across, he’s actually insecure and afraid of getting hurt. This is why he takes his time to “make sure” what he feels is real.

This is super frustrating for women who start seeing a Libra guy, get really excited about him, and then he starts to pull back a bit. She doesn’t know if he lost interest or if he’s just afraid.

Of course he’s not going to be too entirely forthcoming about what he’s feeling or thinking so you’ll be wondering what is going on. That means you have to be straight forward yourself.

Ask Him for Exclusivity

How to Know If Libra Man Is Serious about You

If you are seeing a Libra guy but aren’t sure if he’s possibly a bit serious about you or hasn’t mentioned being exclusive then it’s time to ask him if he’d be up for it. If he answers no, you’re going to then ask him why not.

It may be frightening thinking about speaking up and asking him for this but the bottom line is, he’s not going to tell you any other way unless you wait to see what he does next.

Most women don’t want to wait for months on end for a Libra guy to finally state how he’s feeling. That being said, ask him about being exclusive with just you. If he says he already is then you know you’re someone he takes seriously.

If he tells you he’s not really ready for that then he’s not all that serious or is terrified to commit to anyone. Either way, you’ll figure out if he’s someone you will give more time to or if you’ll just let it go.

If he doesn’t tell you himself that he’s not seeing anyone but you then you aren’t really sure if he’s loyal to you. Then again, if you haven’t discussed it, you really don’t even know if he’s even thinking about being serious with you or not.

Ask About the Next Step

In the event that you maybe have already been dating a Libra man exclusivity then you need to step it up a notch. This is not going to be for the faint of heart but you’ve got to ask him where he’s at with the relationship.

It’s frustrating when you go places and he introduces you as his friend or just by your name alone. You want to hear “this is my girlfriend” and your name. If he’s not doing that, he’s not ready.

That being said, you’re going to have to dig in a bit deeper and ask him how he sees the relationship going and what he’d like to happen for the future. He’s not going to be comfortable with you asking but he knows he owes you and answer.

It probably won’t feel too thrilling to ask him either because you’re unsure if he will say he wants to take it up a notch or if he’s going to say he’s really not ready to commit further as of yet.

There is also that possibility where he may say that he will never want to commit to anyone on a more serious level as he has other priorities that are far more important to him.

There you have it though. You will have to flat out ask him about what the next step is between the two of you. If you two have been very casual, the next step would be become mutually exclusive.

If you’re already there and ready for more of a commitment where he calls you his girlfriend, you’ve got to ask for it. Libra men do not typically blurt out what they’re feeling. They have to be asked otherwise they’ll keep things “as is”.

The Bottom Line

How to Know If Libra Man Is Serious about You

When it comes to asking the Libra man important questions, these two are the most important that there are because then you’ll know where you stand and what he will or will not want going forward.

Get him to tell you what he feels, what he wants, and where he sees things going. That will help give you the perspective you need to either wait him out or decide to go your own way to find someone else who wants what you do.

Libra man will likely be very understand should you decide to part ways and do what you feel is best for yourself. He’s one that will remain friends with you and perhaps later if the timing is better, you two could also try again.

If you’re just scratching the surface with your Libra guy, you should really learn all you can about his sign. It may help you in the long run. Click here for more details on him!

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Wishing you all the luck of the universe

Your friend and Relationship Astrologer,

Anna Kovach



16 thoughts on “How to Know If Libra Man Is Serious about You – Ask Him Exactly This

  1. Wow. After reading this I’m surprised that is true for the Libra Man. Me being a Scorpio myself with Sun and Moon I am secretly crushing on one right now. Although I have distanced myself lately since I did not want to get my hopes up and regrettably tell him that I have feelings for him when he might not feel the same. To my surprise recently I asked him jokingly if he was going to ask to me to be his Valentine and he end up doing it and asking to hang out on that day. I still don’t want to confess to him how I feel about him since we have only know each other for a year. But most of my close friends have who have met him and I told them of our interactions with each other have all said that it very much seems that is he interested in me. However I question this as I am usually the one who has to text him for us to even speak or engage with each other. Yet I know how flirty he is and witness this myself with others and how he is always moving onto new things. I think for now I am going to wait and see for what happens although after reading this it might take some time. I guess if we do see each other a little more often and continue being intimate (not sexually) as our plans for Valentine’s Day is to have a cuddle session. Time will only tell. I know it would take some work as our pairing is not the best I will be willingly to put effort into the relationship. I know that it will have ups and downs but I am ready to have the experience and ready to learn more for myself.

    1. Hi Jennifer!

      If you want to know if he’s interested in you then what you do is tell him “you know, I like you and I’d like to get to know you better” and see what he says. This is a way of telling him you’d like to get closer. Either he’ll take the bait and try to get closer to you or he’ll tell you he’s not into it. Either way you’ll find out the truth of what is going on. Yes time will tell, it takes them awhile though so don’t try to pressure him to hurry up. Do let him know you like him though because then the ball is in his court and then be patient. You may find success!

  2. This seems to be what I am going through at the moment. My Libra and I have known each other for almost 20 years, and recently rekindled. Life took some twists and turns and we both ended up having kids with different people, but kept in touch off and on throughout the years. Well I decided to hit him up after a 5 year relationship that went awry because I couldn’t stop thinking about him, and I wanted to see if there was a possibility we could get together. We hit it off instantly, I’m a Sagittarius so I’m not surprised we did, but now I am confused because he doesn’t tell me how he feels too often. What we have has been casually going on for 4 months, and the chemistry is off the charts, but I do not know what to do. Recently I told him I think I am falling in love and he said his feelings are growing as well, but he did not say it back. I do not want to pressure him to do/say anything, but I do want to know where we stand.

    1. HI Anonymous!

      I understand that as a Sagittarius woman, you want answers. Libra men are methodical creatures that take their time. Something you’re going to have to do is have patience. He will get there if you are patient with him. If you do not, you will push and he will pull back which isn’t what you want. Trust me on this one. Be patient and let things evolve at a natural rate and you’ll find success. If you need more information, please check out my book “Libra Man Secrets”.

  3. Oddly enough this article fits my situation. I’m a Cancer and he’s a Libra. We are polar opposites. He’s an introvert whereas I am not. I am spontaneous whereas he is a planner.

    However, with that bit being stated I was be coming skeptical of where this was going as he is a non-verbal person. I’m expressive from buying, doing things, showing and very vocal. He however is not that way entirely.

    It took family, friends and male co-workers to point out the things my Libra man has been doing. They each said from him fixing my grill, running errands, helping me and ect…. is his way of showing emotion.

    He had me very baffled as he requires time alone but don’t we all? He later mentioned that he likes everything about me and that his weaknesses are my strengths vice versa. He said with that we can conquer the world.

    But, I had to make a decision to find where we stood. I decided to jump and stay busy for four to five weeks solid as he and his female roommate continued yo do their hikes and floats that he not I did together as I was not invited.

    After being gone a full month he was ready to see me. The Coronavirus had hit. I had been all over numerous stayed just to get away from him until he could make time for us. I also wanted him to get the full view from my side.

    Just know that when I flew back home from California having been gone for four weeks that he was at my door and from that day forward he’s opened his eyes and now does things much differently. That was very high risk what I had done involving a Libra man but at the end it paid off.

    A few things that did bother me which I eventually told him was

    1.) Not appreciating his female roommate calling and texting in our alone time. She knew what she was doing.

    2.) Being controlled by his female roommate as he lives under her roof.

    1. Hi Christina!

      I’m not sure what your question is exactly here. If you know you two are opposites then you’re going to have to deal with who he is. If love is strong enough, you’ll accept him “as is”. You cannot change someone that doesn’t want it or doesn’t think it’s necessary and they will resent you if you try to anyway. If he allows his female roommate to control him then you have a problem and there is something more there than “roommates”. Beware honey. Roommates don’t work like that. I think there may be something more you are unaware of and it could get sticky. If you need more information, please check out my book “Libra Man Secrets”.

  4. Anna,

    Thank you so much for this post. I’m a Sag woman dating a Libra man and baby this pace is unlike anything I’ve ever experienced. It’s so slowwwww. He’s sweet, charming, and thoughtful. I love how I feel when I’m around him. It’s been officially 4 months of us dating though we’ve never officially called it this and I woke this morning wondering is today should be the day that I push for some answers. I would like to spend more time together. We don’t spend a lot of in person time time, but lord I think we have killed the FaceTime app (What is that about? Like the time we spend on FaceTime we could be in each other’s presence). In these 4 months we’ve had sex once and that was around the 3 month marker. I want more sex, but then again I wonder do I? I’m so confused and patience isn’t my thing! Please help!

    1. Hi Building Patience!

      Yes they are so slow and frustrating. Oh yes, they aren’t one to want to put labels on what is so obvious. It’s often best to leave that alone. Everything you have mentioned is pretty typical Libra man behavior. Patience is the only thing that makes a Libra relationship work. You can try to lean him toward something though if you speak freely. Tell him you’d like to spend more time with him in person. Tell him you crave his touch and you want him. If that doesn’t help then you may have to weigh your options. If you want to know more, check out my book “Libra Man Secrets”.

  5. Thank you for this post! I’m a Gemini woman who is ‘dating’ a libra man. We started talking after meeting online and met twice and had no subsequent plans to meet each other again, so I ended up moving on due to lack of interest shown. A month later we were back in contact and arranging to meet up again- and we have been seeing each other ever since and getting what I would consider to be more serious- it’s been five months now and I’m not sure if he has any drive to take things any further from just dating- but I feel I need to ask him sooner rather than later. As a Gemini I’m really surprised (pleasantly) how much I like him- and would like this to work.

    1. Hi Amanda!

      Yes you do need to ask him sweetheart. He won’t feel motivated if you don’t suggest or ask him about it. Tell him you’d like to progress and would like to know if he would as well. HE should actually tell you whether or not he can or will do this with you. Find out and ask! If you need more help, check out my book sometime.

  6. Hi I’m a Leo woman. Thank you so much for this post. I know a Libra man since 2 years. First we met about 3 times we were dating nd had sex too after one month we have met he flied to another country for job. Since that day till nw we are so close to each other and one day I text him that I love him. He said nothing Bt sent me huge kisses
    Few months later I feel he changed the way he text me. More carering I feel from his msgs. And he begins to tell me his feelings and his job bt most important thing that he wants to start a business with me. So we started that. Still I’m handle it till he comes . Things going smoothly like that I feel he got step back from me. When I asked him he said he wants to talk about love, marrage and about our business when he came. And after discuss all that things and then go ahead. He said untill that don’t talk about love or marrge with him. I can’t understand this. Can you please tell me what should I do now. Another thing he said if I have fallen with some other one just tell him before he landed here. Thank you very much

    1. Hi Gayani!

      It sounds to me as though he’s trying to deflect what he may be doing or what is going on with him. It’s not common for a Libra man to be jealous or act this way. I wonder what his upbringing is like or if he’s been badly hurt before making him insecure about being with someone in a commitment. I think you should confront him and ask him what is going on and if he wants to be with you or not. If he says no, let him go. He sounds like he could be toxic for you if he cannot get his own head together. If he replies with yes he does then tell him to stop confusing you by accusing you of things you’re not doing. Check out my book “Libra Man Secrets” for more information.

  7. Hi thank you for this post. I’m a Leo woman. I am with my libra man since two years from now when we were first met we met about three times. After one month we met he flied to another country for job nd he continues connection with me from video calls texting. When things going on one day I text him that I love him. He said its OK baby nd sent me huge kisses. After few months he changed the way he text me. He added more caring .and started to share his feelings.. His thoughts.. Some problem s with me. And he dropped the sex chatting with me a little. He said he wants to start a business with me. Then we started that. Still I’m handle that till he comes back. Things going on like that I feel he stepped back from me. I asked him why and also I asked him he would come with me for a party when he came back. Then he said he wants to discuss about love, marriage and our business. Then after we take a decision we go ahead with any thing. He said untill then don’t talk about that things also he said if I have fallen with some other one just tell him before he comes back so I can’t understand what he is telling or what is his next step can you please tell me what should I do or shall I waiting for him thank you very much

  8. Hi first of all thank you for this post. I’m a Leo woman.before 2 years I met a Libra man. We met about three times.. Had fun and sex… After one month he went to another country for his job. When he landerd there he text me first. And told me not to forget him. From that moment we continue our conversation from texting. Video calls..those days mostly he text about sex.. His interests for sex.. My decorations about sex.. Like that.. Bt after few months he changed his texting style. More carering texts he sent me. He wants to know all about me. And also he begin to tell me his feelings.. His likes.. Dislikes.. Bt when he seems like that he don’t text me about sex like earlier.. Bt some times he does. Time goes like that he wants to start a business with me. So we started. Still I’m handling that till he comes. He guide me on our business. When all happens like that I feel he took a feet back from me.. Or keep a distance. One day i asked him when he comes back will he come with me for a party. Then he said he wants to talk with me about love., marriage.,and about our business. After our discussion we will go ahead with any thing he said. And also he said if I have another man or I fallen for someone else or if I can’t wait till he comes just tell him before he comes. He told till he comes don’t talk about that things. So I can’t understand what s his next step. Or what shall I do or what he thinks. I wanna know.. What s all these

  9. I have been dating a Libra man for 3 months now and I am experiencing everything that is being said here. We met back in high school and were just friends. 3 months ago he found me on Facebook and friended me. He asked me over his house to eat and catch up. After that he was calling and texting me multiple times a day as just a friend until he started to hint at being a potential man for me. I was surprised but being a gemini woman I wanted him to be straight with me if he was interested in me. He changed the subject and we hung up and then he instantly sent me a message and said he definitely is interested in me but he is scared to tell me that because I have a huge package deal that comes along with me (7 kids). We decided to give it a try and got so close that we were talking marriage. He was speaking of the future with me and my children in it, he kept asking me to move in with him, he even gave me a drawer for some things that I left there and bought me a necklace with his favorite animal on it. He has a few women friends and his best friend is a woman which I was totally fine with as long as it was just that but I found out that on valentines day he made dinner and had wine with one of his so called friends and gave her the same preaent he gave me for valentines day but in the color that is my favorite color ! I dint know what to make of it since im supposed to be his girlfriend and she is just his friend so I asked him about it and he lied about having her over and giving her a present because he thinks I dont know. He still says that she is just a friend and she is ratchet and is always complaining about everything in her life. Then out of no where the day after Valentines day he said he thinks we moved to fast and I took his focus off of what he was planning before he met me which was moving out of state. Since then he leaves my messages unread, he took whatever I had at his house and gave it back to me. When he does answer my texts it’s when he feels like it. We are down to one call a day, and he has stopped doing all of the extra sentimental things he was doing. When I asked him why he said to me “I love you, but I gotta do what’s best for me” I’m looking for jobs and an apartment out of state. Let’s slow down and be friends so u can get to know me better that even though I have friends I will not cheat on u. It hurt me deeply but I agreed to friendship. I am so confused by this but I am an understanding person and he told me he is like this because he does not want to be hurt. His 1st marriage ended because she wanted a man with more money. His 2nd marriage ended because she cheated. I was married from the age of 18 and just got divorced 2 years ago after I turned 41 because he was cheating on me for years. I don’t want to be hurt like that again. What do u think?

    1. Hi Michelle!

      It sounds like you and your Libra need time and patience because both of you are fearful of being hurt. Take your time, be friends, and see where it leads. I will say this… you need to trust your gut too. If your intuition is telling you that he doesn’t want what you wand then you may want to keep looking out there. Maybe you need some “friends” yourself like he has. I honestly don’t understand him telling you to be friends but he won’t cheat on you. How can you cheat on a friend… that’s odd. He may simply want to clean himself up and get on track before he does get in a relationship. So there is that also. It’s up to you though whether you want to wait him out or move on. I do wish you all the very best!

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