Dark Side Of A Libra Man — 11 Negative Traits You Should Be Aware Of

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
There is a dark side of a Libra man that you should know about. Keep reading for the most common Libra man negative traits...

There is a whole lot to love about the sweet and tender Libra man, but his dark side and bad behaviour drives women crazy. There are things about a Libra man that may turn you off or cause you to question your relationship. 

You might want to know what you can expect from your Libra man when things don’t go smoothly before you get too comfortable dating him.

When your Libra guy shows his negative personality traits, you should prepare yourself and know how to deal with it. As a result, you will not be surprised if he becomes erratic or disappears for no apparent reason. 

And trust me, Libra men love disappearing because they hate conflict. You might think that your Libra man is in it, and then the next thing you don’t hear from him for games, or even ever again.

Although they are a bit detached from their feelings, understanding and learning how to deal with them is worth it in the end because they make highly reliable partners, so ladies keep reading to find out more regarding the dark side of Libra man.

Libra Man Negative Traits

1. Libra Man Is Self Centered And Selfish

The Libra man wants to find the right woman to be his soul mate. However, until he learns how to treat his potential partner with the same amount of lavish treatment as he does himself, he’s going to fail.

He puts himself first and doesn’t see why that’s a problem. Yes, we must love ourselves first before we can truly know how to love someone else. However, he takes that a bit too far.

To him, it means to give himself the very best and not give too much thought to what the other person in the relationship may mean. An example would be him going shopping and coming home with new stuff.

You notice that he didn’t pick anything up for you at all, even though there was a big sale. It’s not that you expect it, but it sure would be nice for him to think of you, even if it’s just something small, right?

He doesn’t really “get” this; he thinks of himself and what he wants at the time, which can be tricky when he’s trying to form a lifelong bond with someone he really cares for. He has to learn to treat his partner as he treats himself.

2. Libra Man Doesn’t Open Up Enough

The Libra man opens up to an extent about who he is but not fully. He harbors secrets and doesn’t think he has to share them with anyone, ever. This makes him seem sketchy at times.

He tends to hold in his upsets for so long that one day he finally snaps. He says really awful things that his partner isn’t expecting and had no idea he was upset about in the first place.

It’s a really hard thing for his partner to hear about all the ways she’s upset him and how he carried it for so long before he said something. Now he resents her, and yet she has no way of knowing how to fix or change anything.

Bad communication is what happens with a Libra man—he should speak up, but he doesn’t, and so things go awry, and before you know it, it’s too late, and he’s not in love anymore.

Find out the ways to get your Libra man to open up and share his true feelings with you <<

He may also be sneaky, trying to flirt with other ladies and going so far as to text them with his personal cell phone. He isn’t planning to sleep with her and calls her a friend.

For a woman who is committed to him, however, that feels like a direct slap in the face. Again, he is thinking of himself and his needs before his partners.

3. Libra Man Thinks He Knows Best

These people are “all in” with the way they think. Libra men believe everyone else should subscribe to the same menu. They don’t understand that there is an in-between.

Libra also tends to think in extremes. It’s either very much left or very much right. In-between is too uncertain and not something they like. Again, they tend to learn more about it when they get into long-term relationships.

This is karmically something they have to work on throughout their lives so that they can find that line that hovers in between the extremes. It will help them know that it’s okay to not be left or right.

They will push it in relationships, though, if it’s something they really want or really don’t want. If they want commitment and are ready, then they will be the ones that push the other person to either “take it up a notch or we’re done.”

Remember that a Libra man doesn’t want to commit quickly anyway. So, when he finally decides he’s ready, his lady love had better be ready, or he may not keep her around too much longer.

Some of them tend to be “you’re either with me or against me” as well. So, if you have an argument with one, you’ll notice he will try to drag his family and friends into it to agree with him in an effort to show you you’re wrong.

Dark Side Of Libra Man In A Relationship

Knowing what to expect from a Libra man in a relationship can really make or break the potential the two of you have for something beautiful.

You need to remember that these guys are unconventional and will do absolutely anything to be different, including how they act when it comes to love and romance. Let’s explore Libra man negative traits when he is in relationship.

4. He Can Be Very Unpredictable

One of the worst traits a Libra man has when he becomes stressed is that he tends to become quite unpredictable. You never know what he is thinking or what he is going to do next. This is incredibly frustrating.

These men can sometimes do things out of nowhere that seem rather shocking. It’s random for most other people but for the Libra man, it’s just his way of doing things. He does what he feels is right at that time.

Sometimes this plot for doing something could make him deep in thought and as a result, come off as cold or detached. It’s not that he doesn’t care about you or your thoughts but he has other things on his mind.

Discover the possible reasons why does a Libra man go hot and cold <<

It can be so confusing to see someone who is usually so reliable and dependable go totally against everything they usually stand for. You won’t know if you are coming or going when your Libra man finds himself in one of these moods.

It is best for you not to take his actions personally and just let him do his own thing until he starts feeling better. You honestly need the patience of a saint if you are going to date a Libra man!

But, to be honest, Libra men are not really that negative and they have plenty of positive traits. He will have an opinion but he won’t be angry about it. He’ll just think about it and come back to it. This is particularly useful when someone gets angry with him and tries to pick a fight.

Libra man will look at you and try to diffuse the situation. When he does this, it’s best for you to calm yourself down and talk to him like an adult. He’ll respond much better to your words then.

5. He Is An Uncompromising

This is one of the Libra man’s negative characteristics is that he is a bit confusing. He believes in helping people who are in need. However, when it comes to his personal life, he’s a bit different.

When he’s in love and committed, he will give the shirt off his back to his woman. However, when he wants it back, he’ll demand she finds another to replace it. He has some very selfish qualities that make him seem cold or callous.

He’s very set in his ways, and it’s hard to change his mind about anything. He wants it the way he wants it, and that’s that. You can intellectualize and get through to him on a diplomatic level, but it still may not change his mind.

You pretty much have to prove to him when he’s wrong or when something you propose is the right thing to do. His not seeing both sides of the coin makes him one-sided and blind to important issues sometimes.

It may sound like a good thing that a Libra man won’t settle for just anyone. The problem that happens is that he also will not pay for the potential partner’s inadequacies either.

What I mean by this is he’s particular in what he wants and what he doesn’t want. He will expect the prospective partner to change and be molded by what it is that he’s looking for.

One of the Libra man’s negative characteristics is that he will not change. He has this attitude of “it’s my way or no way.” This isn’t one that works well for a budding romance. He won’t come off that way in the beginning, but as time goes on, he will start changing.

When you start noticing that he gets picky about what you’re wearing, how you talk, or any of your other habits, you should pay attention. He may be tearing you down to see if you’re the right one.

6. His Feelings Are Extremely Detached

Just like the Libra man can pull a disappearing act, he can also pull back his feelings and detach. This means he could still be sitting in the same room, but he isn’t really “there.”

This is his way of obtaining some form of freedom even if he’s physically present. He’ll often try to do it this way before he’ll get up and take off. He’s trying to work it out in his head.

He won’t listen to you; he’ll tune you out, and he’ll probably blow you off by watching television, playing with his cell phone, or gaming. He’ll find some way that he can be himself without having to interact with you.

Again, this could be for various reasons. It’s always a trick to figure out what exactly is bothering him and why he feels the need to tune out and be apart from the woman he supposedly likes or even loves.

Libra men are difficult, and if you see any of these red flags, it’s important that you decide whether you’re in this with him and you’ll be patient with him and his bad traits or if he’s not someone you wish to continue with.

If you struggle with how to handle a Libra man and find the right words to make him feel special, I strongly suggest getting my Libra Man Love Language guide. It will help you finally speak the same love language as him and make your bond so much stronger.

7. He Will Take Space And Become Secretive

A Libra man is first and foremost an intellectual being. He isn’t someone who is too in touch with his emotions, and that is why he finds it so easy to detach and become aloof when something is bothering him.

Libra needs time by himself to figure out what it is he is going through, and he can’t do this when there are so many outside forces trying to influence him. He needs to get quiet, listen to what his inner voice is saying, and try to put the puzzle pieces together.

This is why you will find that a Libra man will disappear when he is stressed out, because this is the only way he knows how to handle whatever it is he is going through. He doesn’t want others to get involved, so he just follows his own lead on what needs to get done.

Just beware if you have suspicions that he might be dishonest… He is so clever that it is very likely that he is lying to you, so you need to be really careful about this.

8. He Might Become Hypercritical Of You

When a Libra man is stressed and everything is going wrong in his life, he might find it easier to blame the people closest to him. He is quite a perfectionist, and when things don’t go according to plan, he becomes miserable.

This is when he will lash out and let you know that you might be to blame for his misgivings. This is so unfair and totally uncalled for, of course. It is simply because he cannot accept that he too is capable of making mistakes.

Be warned, he can be quite mean because he has such a sharp tongue. He knows how to cut people where it hurts most. You seriously need a thick skin if you’re going to be spending your time in a relationship with a Libra man.

Libra Man Red Flags That Should Not Be Ignored

9. Libra Men Are Shallow

The Libra man will always appear as though he has it all together, his life is fantastic; he’s doing really well, and is very happy. He’ll be wearing the best and most fashionable and will look quite appealing.

However, when you really get to know him to a deeper level, you find out that he’s kind of a phony. He isn’t what he seems at all. This is what makes them great actors. They’re good at pretending to be someone else.

They act like humanitarians but then when it comes down to it, if it takes any of their precious “me” time, they may back down from charitable situations. He also likely doesn’t have as much money as he likes everyone to believe he does.

He acts as though he’s a grandmaster at what he does and that he’s on top of his game when really he’s probably working in a retail store living off of small hourly wages with some commission.

It’s also true he may act like he’s the best at what he does and while that may be true, he may also only be telling half the story. He may claim to be an expert when really he just knows what most other people know.

He’s good at convincing people of just about anything and so it’s not shocking when he becomes very well known in certain circles even though he’s nothing but a commoner with no special talents.

He looks like a million bucks when he goes to be around people but at home, he wears jeans with holes in them and t-shirts he’s been wearing for 20 plus years. Even if he runs to the store, he’ll dress up and make sure he looks “on point”.

10. Libra Men Like To Gossip

One thing that most people do not know about Libra men is their capacity to talk trash behind people’s backs. When he is face to face with those same people, he turns on his charm as though they are his friend.

He will also throw someone under the bus if it will further his career or cause. He pretends to be diplomatic and loyal when really he just gets what he can and walks on by.

Most people don’t know this because he doesn’t do it around many people. He will only tell his partner or closest friends who also seem to gossip right along with him.

It’s a hard day when Libra man gets a partner that isn’t into gossiping and points out the flaws in what he’s saying and how judgmental he is. He’ll have to self reflect and he won’t like the criticism.

He’s all too willing to criticize others though and make it seem as though he’s better than others. Sometimes he can sound like a snob. He’s better at what he does and he has better morals, better clothes, better friends, etc.

Beware of the Libra man you go out with and he’s super nice to certain people but then behind closed doors he talks about them like they’re beneath him and he doesn’t want anything to do with him.

However when they call and have something to offer him, he’s off and running as though he never said those things.

11. Libra Men Are Indecisive 

This is the most annoying thing about Libra man. He changes his mind often, and has a hard time taking the right road. He confuses himself and causes great anxiety for his weary mind.

Libras also come across as being cool or detached with their emotion which is why they don’t get jealous. He doesn’t think that anyone will ever cheat on him or leave him because he’s so great.

Libra men can be quite full of themselves. He needs a woman to show him that he’s not all that but he IS good deep inside.

How To Deal With A Libra Man’s Bad Traits — Understand Him Better

Libra men are known for seeking balance in all aspects of their lives. However, their desire for harmony can lead them to indecisiveness and a fear of making difficult decisions or taking risks.

It might not be enough to know what to expect from a Libra man and his negative traits, you also need to know what to do about them. Here are some simple solutions to help you process his bad behavior:

Give Him Something Positive To Think About

Usually, a Libra man is quite the positive guy, but when he is in one of his moods, he can become quite negative and destructive. To help him snap out of it, make him see that there is so much for him to be grateful for.

Plan something enjoyable for the two of you to do to help him get excited about something. This should definitely get him out of his rut and help him to be his friendly and optimistic self once again.

Give Him Space

If you notice that your Libra man is pushing you away because of something that is going on in his life, then don’t fight him on it. Give him his space and realize that he needs a breather from everything.

You don’t want to add to why he is feeling so negatively. He is a highly independent person and he needs to be with a woman who can respect his need for alone time, especially when he’s dealing with some stresses in his life.

Support Him By Removing Obstacles

As a loving partner to your Libra man, you have a lot more power than you might give yourself credit for. If you know something will upset or stress your Libra man, then help him by dealing with it yourself.

This guy loves to be with an independent woman who can take care of herself. So, stop depending on him to come to your rescue. Realize that you don’t always have to turn to your man to fix things.

Read next: Things You Should NEVER Say To A Libra Man

FAQ On Libra Man Dark Side

All this information may have left you with more questions than answers. Are you still trying to decode your Libra man?

Here are some FAQ’s you might be wondering about:

What Is A Libra Man’s Weakness In Love?

A Libra man’s indecisiveness is his number one weakness in love. Sometimes, while weighing pros and cons, one can become paralyzed in making a viable decision.

In addition, the Libra man is a people-pleaser and sometimes can sacrifice his own needs and desires to put his partner’s needs above his own. All of this can make him lose himself in the relationship.

A Libra man can prioritize superficial qualities over deeper ones.

What Are Libras Most Insecure About?

A Libra man is insecure when it comes to rejection and not being accepted by others. He fears being judged or abandoned in the relationship as well as in his social circles. This is what makes him insecure when facing challenges in difficult situations.

This is why the Libra man avoids conflicts and confrontation. This can very much stand in the way of his happiness.

Do Libra Men Like Playing Mind Games? 

The Libra man is really fun to be around. He has such a way about him that draws everyone in. He’s quite familiar with being the center of attention because everyone is just so interested in what he has to say or the stories he has to tell.

A Libra man does not play mind games. His goal is not to confuse you and keep you guessing. This guy is fair and doesn’t apply to get you thinking about him.

Are Libra Men Controlling? 

Libra men are agreeable and passive rather than controlling. They tend to accommodate others and often end up being controlled. Compared to all zodiac signs, the Libra man is least likely to be controlling.

Having said that, you are the one who will manage the relationship, and the Libra man will defer to you to take control.

Libra men make really good partners and are fantastic at relationships. Any woman who has ever been in a relationship with a Libra man can attest to this. He loves love; all he needs is a little bit of encouragement and a push, and it should be easy to win him over.

Stop Worrying About Your Libra Man…

It can be SO painful to worry about how to make things work with a Libra  man who won’t commit.

I know. I’ve been there with many of my friends dating Libra  guys.

I remember my very close friend crying herself to sleep at night, worried that her man would never commit to her. She lost sleep, time, and even work hours, all because she couldn’t figure out how to capture his heart and get him to commit.

As a friend, it was hard to watch her go through that.

But I knew how good he was for her, and I didn’t want her to give up on him. Even when our other friends were telling her to move on, I could see that he was the most incredible man she had ever met.

How could she just give up on that?

But it wasn’t easy. It took a LOT of work.

She had to learn how to speak a different language… his love language!

And it worked!! 

So if you are ready to sleep like a baby… Knowing your Libra  man is MADLY in love with you… And never feel anxious about him again…

>> Go here now and learn to speak your Libra man’s love language.



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  • I am a libra man. A lot of these traits were true when I was younger. But I don’t tend to talk about people behind their backs. I have no problem telling them exactly what I think. I think my darkest trait is I tend to isolate when I am not getting what I need in a relationship but am to invested to walk away.

    • Hi Shane Westerbur!

      You are a matured Libra man. Sadly, not all of them mature like you clearly have. I applaud you and thank you for letting me know your side. I really appreciate all the feedback I can get. You probably have aspects in your chart that make you able to tell the truth instead of gossip which is wonderful! Isolation is something you definitely need to work on but I’m sure you’ll find the key when the timing is right. Again, I appreciate your input Shane! I wish you all the luck of the universe!

    • Shane
      My lover is a libra he’s so much like you that is odd
      I take it you are a good person and my lover is a good person
      Don’t change for no one

    • Hi Sandy!

      Everyone is different. While he can have some of the same qualities as another Libra man, he still will have unique qualities as well. That’s what makes each man different. What you should probably look into is his Rising Sign, Moon Sign, Mars, and Venus. Otherwise, you might want to check out my guides on “Libra Man Secrets”. I wish you all the best!

  • I was married to one and he had a completely secret life. Everything I read is very accurate. In the sex department he lied to me in our entire relationship. I felt that I literally lived a lie with him. I think it’s very clear that he broke my heart more than once.

    • Hi Delisse!

      Yikes, I am not surprised he had a secret life. They seem to be pretty good at it when they want to. They are pretty good at juggling time when it comes to self preservation and what they want. I’m sorry your Libra turned out to be so selfish honey. It sounds like it’s time to let go and move forward to someone who wants only you and is loyal. I wish you all the luck of the universe!

  • I met a Libra on the internet net n we’ve been into a relationship, I have notice slot of these negative traits in him. But I’m a Taurus n he doesn’t fool me n I won’t put up with d so one of his Bs . He knows n I’m very blunt about things. Do he’ll sulk but he keeps coming back.

    • Hi Norma Vopp!

      Well as long as the two of you find a way to make it work then I guess your method is alright. He may keep coming back but sooner or later Libra men cannot stand someone calling them out. Maybe your Libra has some fire in him that keeps him coming back for more. I wish you all the very best!

  • Im a Libra woman, married to a libra man. Together almost 25yrs. And yes, secret life, broken promises, loving one minute and so detached and cold the next. As time went/goes by you first discover then learn more n more of the secret life, the lies they swore to, Even when confronted with facts! Which has given me no choice but to constantly question his love for me and his loyalty to me. They can be (usually are) selfish, and will look elsewhere to fulfill there own wants and needs instead of sharing them with you. The excitement and self satisfaction is to much for them to resist. But once discovered the blame is entirely placed upon you. Though I love him so deeply, it has been a roller coaster ride from hell that has both scared and broken me. But I do know him, the true him and he is A GOOD MAN inside. And though i know he has a deep love for me, I also know that regardless of that love and knowing the pain and humiliation he has caused me, I am still 2nd to his own needs and self fulfillment. There is no (not that i’ve seen) regret or remorse, no concern for the damage and pain inflicted upon me. They create reasons to justify there actions, lack of actions and deeds. Because it will never completely stop, promises mean nothing, there words are false. And the excitement of it all is a high for them. They act hurt when confront them so they can turn things around to deflect and then end the discussion. Resenting you today and loving you tomorrow. The charm and magnetism they carry makes them believe truly think they are superior therefore all is justified.
    So take it from me, be alert, be smart and never ever believe you come 1st. Or that your in control. And all the things you never thought would be done, never thought could or would happen are indeed happening or on the horizon ahead. Good luck!

    • Hi Valerie!

      Thank you for sharing your story. I am sorry you’ve gone through so much. It’s pretty profound to hear these things from a Libra woman. You’re right… Libra men put themselves first in nearly every situation. Valerie, I wish you all the very best in the world. You deserve to be happy too!