Libra Man Hot And Cold — Why Are Libras So Cold Hearted?

by Anna Kovach, relationship astrologer
Wondering why your Libra man is acting hot and cold? There may be many reasons, and not all of them to do with you, why he’s behaving this way. Let’s explore some of these and hopefully, shed some light on the situation. 

Wondering why your Libra man is hot and cold? It can be unsettling to feel like he’s unsure about you or not that into you. When a Libra man goes cold, there may be many reasons for this behavior, and not all of them have to do with you. Let’s explore some of these and hopefully shed some light on the situation.

Did you know that Libra is the sign of love and relationships? This is not the type of sign to usually blow hot and cold, but sometimes he does. And he has specific reasons for doing it. From your side, this can trigger all kinds of insecurities and have you behaving in a very needy way. Not nice, right?

Instead of asking him or pestering him for reasons why he’s acting this way, you can turn to astrology for some answers and comfort. And once you know it or have figured it out, it becomes so much less stressful, and you don’t have to feel like you need to constantly get reassurance from him.

In my experience as a relationship astrologer, knowing his astrology can go a long way toward helping build understanding between you.

Why Are Libras So Hot And Cold — 4 Possible Reasons Why Libras Go Cold

1. He Is Trying To Make A Decision

The number-one reason why your Libra man might be blowing hot and cold is because he’s trying to make some sort of decision about you and the relationship.

Libra is notoriously the most indecisive sign in the Zodiac, and so they can fuss about, sitting on the fence and thereby torturing you!

Of course, it never feels good to not be chosen instantly, but are there other factors going on to influence his decisions? Such as a breakup? Maybe you’re fresh from a breakup? Maybe he is immigrating soon?

2. He May Have Someone Else He’s Seeing

Now, don’t fret, unless you have proper evidence that he’s seeing someone else. However, it’s true that, often, in the beginning of a relationship with a Libra fella, they may straddle two relationships at once.

They are the sign of balance, so you can rest assured that they will, at some point, make their choice. But there are those few Libra guys that feed off the attention of many women at once and don’t feel bad about dating two at once.

Do Libra men cheat? << find out here

3. He’s Got Other Stress Going On In His Life

Libra man acting hot and cold may be because he has some other major life stress happening in his world. Such as legal issues, a move of home, problems with his kids, his boss, or employees. See, the Libra man is a people-pleaser, and he hates confrontation.

So, he builds up his resentment and becomes extremely worn down by not setting boundaries. Maybe he’s just unable to be present with you, and it looks like he’s blowing you off.

4. He’s Overthinking Things

He could be blowing hot and cold simply because he is overthinking absolutely everything. Libra is an air sign, and all air signs have the tendency to overanalyze.

When he’s gone cold, it’s potentially because he has just retreated into his head. He could be worrying about where the relationship is going, feeling insecure, falling in love, or thinking about his last relationship.

And if you’ve already seen enough, and want to finally get out of his vicious circle of games, check out my 30-day Libra Man Love Challenge… It will set you on the right path with your Libra guy.

What Scares A Libra Man Away — More Reasons

5. He’s Recently Had A Breakup Or Divorce

Because this is the sign of relationships, you’ll find that relationships come to his mind more than most men’s. If he has recently (within the last year), gone through a breakup or a divorce, you can be very sure that this is the reason he is blowing hot and cold.

He may just be in pain still, mourning over the past, and a lost love. Yes, it’s horrible to experience, as the woman who wants to be loved and treasured without his baggage getting in the way. But the truth is, everyone has baggage. And his baggage is around love and loss.

What you should know when dating a divorced Libra man? << check out here

6. He’s Falling In Love – And Scared

What can often happen with Libra men, is that they realize that they are falling in love with you – and then all they want to do is retreat. This makes them act in a way that seems hot and cold. One moment they want you, and the next, they feel like they have to get away.

It’s confusing, unnerving, and triggering for you on the other end. You might be that woman who can’t understand why he won’t just jump in and give it all he’s got.

But remember this – he’s indecisive. He wants to make the right choice. He also might be scared of being hurt – again.

Let’s explore some surefire signs a Libra man is falling in love with you <<

7. He’s Not That Into You

One of the worst reasons that he could be hot and cold towards you is perhaps because he may not be all that into you. Yes, you heard right. Maybe he’s just not feeling connected to you or passionate about you.

Not every relationship has to work out. Sometimes, it doesn’t and that’s fine. Even if it hurts, maybe there is someone out there who is much, much better for you anyway. Maybe, as charming as he is, he’s not treating you with the commitment you crave.

If you would like to look out for the surefire signs about Libra man intentions about you, check out my recent blogpost.

Libra Man Confusing Me With His Hot And Cold Behavior — What To Do?

Show Him Some Love And Affection

As the seventh sign of partnerships and marriage, Venus-ruled Libra governs the art of love. Because of his romantic and relationship-oriented nature, the Libra man needs words of affirmation and physical touch on a daily basis to stay connected.

If the Libra man has been acting hot and cold and you have not been giving him any love, then give him a nice massage, big hug, and kiss to ease the mood.

If you’re really in the dog house, try surprising him with a night on the town (all dressed-up!) and upscale dinner. He will appreciate the effort.

Focus on catering to the Libra man. Show him that you will do whatever it takes to make sure he knows he’s wanted and he’s loved. He could just be feeling a little forgotten and needs a little lovin’ to snap him out of his hot and cold moods!

Get Him To Talk About His Feelings

As chatty as the Libra man is, it’s hard for him to talk about his intimate feelings. He doesn’t like to expose when he’s hurt.

However, if the Libra man has been hurt (or disappointed) by you or any other life circumstance, this may be why he’s acting hot and cold.

To turn this around, apologize, acknowledge his feelings, and express your own. Show the Libra man through words (he’s an air sign, he needs to hear it!) and actions you are someone he can trust. Let him know that it’s okay to let his emotional guard down.

Although Libra men are always socializing and helping others, it can be difficult for him to do the same for himself.

Instead of talking about what he’s feeling, he isolates or snaps without warning — pushing you away every time he acts cold and mentally and emotionally checks out.

Again, you can alleviate this mind game by encouraging him to talk it out. It may take you some time to get him to trust you, but once he does, listen to him and you should be able to work it out.

Here’s how to get a Libra man to open up and share his true feelings with you <<

Be Spontaneous And Consistent 

As a cardinal air sign, the Libra man is constantly moving from one idea to the other. In relationships, this means that Libra men get bored fast. So, if he’s acting hot and cold, he may be losing interest in you. 

To overcome this setback in your connection, make sure you’re still being spontaneous. 

Aside from love and affection, the Libra man needs to be mentally and physically stimulated. He is the most athletic of all the air signs. 

If the wander has escaped your partnership, invite it back in. Remind the Libra man that you can be charming and adventurous. Show him that you can live life occasionally on a whim.

Consistency is also equally important to the Libra man. If you want him to trust you and stop acting hot and cold, then you need to keep your word and do what you say!

If you promised the Libra man you would call at 9:30, call at 9:30 or let him know if you’ll be late or there’s a delay. 

The biggest pet peeve of the diplomatic Libra man is lack of fairness and communication. If you don’t communicate with him, intrigue him, and remain consistent, then he may turn cold on you. 

But if you make him laugh, entertain his wild ideas, and remain a reliable friend, he will warm his heart to you forever. 

Give Him Space 

In relationships, sometimes the Libra man has a hard time maintaining his individuality. As a sign of partnerships and balance, he doesn’t always know how to ask for space or tell his partner he wants to be alone.

Therefore, you may have to learn how to read in between the lines and pick up on when your Libra man is in one of his moods. 

Most importantly, when he gets in one of his moods, as his partner, you cannot take it personally!

Although this may be easy for some strong-minded signs like Capricorn, Taurus, or even Aquarius, it is not easy for everyone. 

Not taking the Libra man’s request for “me time” personally may be hard for sensitive signs like Cancer, Scorpio, and Pisces. 

Rather than acting out yourself, listen to him and peacefully grant his request for space. He will be attracted to your deep level of understanding. 

If he really cares for you, this could be the turning point that makes him fall in love. 

Because deep down inside, all the Libra man wants is a partner that supports his dreams and understands him as a person. He wants a shared, balanced, and equal love. Not a bad request!

How To Handle A Libra Man When He Blows Hot And Cold?

Try not to take it personally right away. First, do some investigation. If he’s just fluffing around, let him know you have options, too. That should do the trick!

You can simply ask him to tell you in a non-confrontational way. That should give you plenty of clues (look at his body language and listen to your gut) to make your own decision.

Make an effort to talk to him and encourage him to tell you about his day, then his life. The chances are very good that you’ll find all kinds of things going on under the hood!

Give it time, but not so much that you get hurt. At some point, you can let him know that he’s either in or out.

You can try to coax him out of it by asking him if he wants to talk, which he usually does. However, you could also engage him by doing fun activities together, which he usually loves and enjoys to the maximum. It will also bring him closer to you. Win-win! 

Most of the time, it’s probably not as personal as it feels. Give things some time to develop, and as he begins to spend more time with you, he could draw closer and closer. Lean back, focus on your own life, and do the things you love instead of waiting around for him.

How To Know When A Libra Man Is Done With You?

If you date a Libra man, the most accommodating sign in the zodiac, please note that he won’t tell you when something is right because he wants to avoid conflict and confrontation with you.

The worst thing would be for you to realize too late that things are not working. This is why you always need to be on the lookout for signs that he is not happy in the relationship.

If he is constantly making excuses not to be with you, if he is not including you in his social activities, if he doesn’t compromise with you, those are the clear signs he is done with you.

Paying more attention to other people and spending less time with you means that your Libra man is not interested in having you by his side.

If you want to make things work with him, you need to remind him how good you are to each other and how much respect you have for one another.

FAQ On Libra Man Hot And Cold Behavior

Are you struggling to figure out what to do about your Libra man and how this will affect your relationship?

Well, luckily for you I have compiled a list of questions that might come up in your relationship. Hopefully, this can help you navigate the difficult times you might experience with your Libra man.

How Does A Libra Man Act When Hurt?

When hurt, Libra man is pretending that everything is OK. Libra man will not show you that he is hurt. Instead, he will be reserved. Most likely he will retreat to process his emotions, he may become unusually quiet and distant. 

Balance is everything to the Libra guy, and perhaps he felt that things are out of balance. If you are the one that hurt him, you need to let him reflect on the situation. 

How Do You Know When A Libra Man Is Losing Interest?

Libra man is a social creature, and when he is losing interest in you, he will decrease his communication. He will not be interested in hearing about your friends and family and will stop being occupied by your life and challenges.

Furthermore, if he is becoming emotionally distant and doesn’t share his feelings, it is a definite sign he is not interested in you anymore.

Avoiding meeting or rescheduling plans he has with you vouch that you should either try to bring him back or move forward with your life.

How Does A Libra Man Express His Feelings?

Libra man is not afraid to show his feelings, either through words, romantic gestures or physical touch.

Libra is affectionate and if he likes you he will shower you with compliments all the time. There is no room in guessing whether he likes you, you will instantly know it!

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XOXO, Anna

About Author

Hi, this is Anna Kovach. I am a professional Relationship Astrologer and author of dozens of bestselling books and programs. For over a decade I’ve been advising commitment-seeking women like you and helping them understand, attract and keep the man of their dreams using the astonishing power of astrology. Join over 250K subscribers on my newsletter or follow me on social media! Learn more about me and how I can help you here.

  • Dear Anna, once again thanks for your mails, today i sent him this message:
    Hello, i haven’t heard from you a while.
    I am here if you want to talk.
    He hasn’t seen the message yet.
    Thanks Anna.

  • This was a great reading and of course on point once again! I find you really have to be mindful what you say to them & not be critical bc they are very sensitive. I broke up with him ab 3 months ago, saw him again and the next day he said we were back together and said he was trying. I was happy to hear that and putting forth the effort. Very appreciative of your work and what you do because I would have no clue! Thx Anna.