Libra men are charming and charismatic, but sometimes they can be masters of manipulation. They are a lot smarter than they let on, and if you’re not careful, a Libra man might be playing you like a fiddle.
A Libra man knows how to flirt and make a woman feel really seen and special, but this doesn’t mean he isn’t doing this with multiple women at the same time. You need to know this, but Libra men are definitely flirts and sometimes they can use their charm to manipulate and play with your emotions.
It might be difficult for you to grasp when he is doing this and this is why you are often feeling confused and unsure of where you stand with him. Do you sometimes feel like you a Libra man is playing you?
If you find yourself constantly questioning the intentions of your Libra man, pay attention to these warning signs that he may be playing with you.
Do Libra Men Play Mind Games? Are They Players?
Yes, Libra men can play mind games and be players if they are not mature or committed in their relationships. There is a dualistic nature to the Libra man, he can be quite fickle and indecisive, which can lead to playing mind games with his partner.
A Libra man is the master of being hot and cold, giving mixed signals and keeping you guessing about his true intentions. When a Libra man is playing mind games, it often stems from his fear of commitment or his desire for variety and excitement.
He thrives on attention and validation from others, which can lead him to pursue multiple romantic interests simultaneously. This Air Zodiac sign can be very indecisive and struggle to make up his mind, especially when it comes to choosing one person to commit to.
It feels like a massive decision to make and this is why a Libra man will always weigh up all of his options before making a commitment. However, not all Libra men are players or engage in mind games.
You need to learn the warning signs so that you can be discerning and distinguish a genuine Libra man from one who is playing you.
How To Know When A Libra Man Is Using You
Firstly, watch out for inconsistency in his words and actions. A Libra man who is genuinely interested in you will make an effort to ensure his words align with his behavior. However, if you notice frequent inconsistencies, such as promising to call but never following through, it’s a red flag.
Another sign to be wary of is his evasiveness when it comes to commitment. Libra men often have commitment issues and may string you along without any intention of taking the relationship to the next level.
If you bring up the topic of commitment and he avoids the conversation or changes the subject, it’s a clear sign that a Libra man may be playing with your emotions.
One warning sign that a Libra man may be playing you is his inconsistency in communication. He may go from showering you with affection and attention one day to being distant and aloof the next. This inconsistency can leave you feeling confused and unsure of where you stand with him.
7 Warning Signs A Libra Man Is Playing You
1. He Is Evasive
When a Libra man is playing you, he will often be evasive and avoid commitment or serious discussions about the future. He may divert the conversation or brush off your attempts to define the relationship.
You may notice that you struggle to reach a depth with him and whenever you talk about serious things he will brush you off or change the subject.
This lack of depth in conversations can leave you feeling like he is not truly invested in getting to know you on a deeper level. It’s important to pay attention to his actions and how he responds to your attempts to have meaningful discussions.
2. Inconsistent Communication
Additionally, another warning sign to look out for is his lack of consistency in his actions and behavior. One day, he may shower you with affection and attention, making you feel like the center of his world.
But the next day, he can suddenly become distant and aloof, leaving you feeling unsure and confused. A Libra man hot and cold behavior is a classic sign that he is playing with your emotions and not genuinely interested in building a stable and committed relationship.
You will only hear from him when it suits him and he may disappear or become distant for days or even weeks without any explanation. If he can’t be a stable presence in your life, it’s a clear sign that he may be playing with your emotions and is likely not that interested in you.
3. Mixed Signals
In addition to evasiveness and inconsistent communication, another warning sign that a Libra man may be playing you is the presence of mixed signals. He may say one thing but do another, leaving you constantly guessing about his true intentions and feelings.
For example, he may tell you that he wants to take things slow and have a casual relationship, but then act possessive or jealous when you interact with other people. This inconsistency and mixed messaging can lead to confusion and frustration in the relationship, as you are left uncertain about where you stand with him.
If he refuses to define what the two of you are or perhaps calls you a friend and then later tries to sleep with you, it’s a clear sign that he is playing with your emotions and not interested in a genuine, committed partnership. Someone who is really interested in you wouldn’t do this to you.
If you have had enough of dealing with his going hot and cold behavior, I strongly recommend checking out my 30-day Libra Man Love Challenge… It will set you on the right path with your Libra guy.
4. Lack of Effort
A Libra man who is playing you will often show a lack of effort in the relationship. He may make promises or commitments but fail to follow through with them. This can range from canceling plans last minute, forgetting important dates or occasions, or simply not putting in the effort to make you feel valued and appreciated.
This lack of effort is a clear indication that he is not prioritizing the relationship and may be using you for his own convenience. A genuine partner would make an effort to show their love and dedication consistently. You deserve someone who values and respects you enough to put in the necessary effort to make the relationship thrive.
5. Everything Is Surface Level
Moreover, another red flag to watch out for is if your Libra man consistently avoids any kind of deep or meaningful conversation. When you try to discuss your feelings or the future of the relationship, he may deflect or change the subject altogether.
This avoidance of important conversations shows that he is not interested in building a strong emotional connection with you. It suggests that he is more focused on keeping things surface-level and avoiding any kind of commitment or emotional vulnerability.
He will only talk about superficial topics or engage in meaningless small talk, but when it comes to deeper conversations, he will shy away or dodge the topic altogether. Clearly showing that he is not interested in creating that deeper connection with you.
6. Flirting With Others
Furthermore, a clear warning sign that a Libra man is playing you is if he flirts with and shows interest in other people while in a relationship with you, or even if the two of you are just dating he will openly flirt with other people in front of you.
This behavior not only shows a lack of respect for your feelings but also indicates that he is not fully committed to you. While it may be difficult to accept, it’s important to recognize that this behavior is a reflection of his lack of genuine interest in a committed partnership with you.
A partner who truly values and respects you would never engage in such disrespectful behavior. I am sure he knows what he is doing and how it makes you feel, but he continues to do it anyway.
You may also want to read: Can You Trust A Libra Man? Here’s How To Tell
7. Emotional Manipulation
In addition to the aforementioned signs, emotional manipulation is another tactic a person may use when they are playing with your emotions. A Libra man who is playing you may try to make you feel guilty or responsible for his actions, often using tactics such as gaslighting or shifting blame.
This manipulation is meant to confuse and control you, making it easier for him to maintain his power and keep you emotionally invested. It is important to recognize these manipulative tactics and protect yourself from further emotional harm.
Remember that it is not your fault and you should never feel guilty for someone else’s actions. If you find yourself constantly questioning your own perceptions or feeling invalidated, it may be a red flag that he is emotionally manipulating you.
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8. You Only Hear From Him For A Hookup
If a Libra man only reaches out to you late at night or when he wants to hook up, it’s a clear sign that he is not genuinely interested in a serious relationship with you. He may send late-night texts or make plans last minute, focusing solely on his immediate desires rather than building a meaningful connection with you.
This behavior indicates that he sees you as a casual fling rather than a potential partner. It is important to remember your worth and not settle for someone who only shows interest in you for physical reasons.
You may also want to read: Being Friends With Benefits With Libra Man: What To Expect?
9. You Never Hang Out Unless It Is For Sex
When a Libra man doesn’t feel serious about a woman he tends to keep things very casual. He might even feel like a stranger to you at times because the only time you spend together is when he wants to have sex.
This lack of emotional connection and absence of quality time together indicate that he is only interested in physical intimacy and does not see a future or deeper connection with you.
He will make it quite clear through his actions that he is only interested in something physical even if he made other kinds of promises to you in the past. Look at his actions and not only his words.
10. He Is Never Affectionate
A Libra man who is using you will typically display a lack of affection towards you. He won’t show any signs of affection, such as cuddling, holding hands, or giving you compliments.
This lack of emotional connection can be hurtful and leave you feeling unimportant or unloved. Remember that it is not your fault. You deserve to be with someone who values and cherishes you, so if you don’t feel special around him, it’s a clear indication that he is using you for his own pleasure and not serious about building a meaningful relationship.
11. He Is Very Selfish
A Libra man who is using you will prioritize his own needs and desires above yours. He will often neglect your feelings, opinions, and desires in favor of his own.
This selfish behavior can manifest in various ways, such as always deciding where to eat or what activities to do without considering your preferences, not taking the time to listen to you or support you in times of need, and not making any compromises or sacrifices for the sake of the relationship.
And then when you have sex this will definitely become evident as he may be solely focused on his own pleasure and satisfaction, without considering your needs or desires. You will definitely notice an imbalance in power and consideration in the relationship, with him consistently putting himself first.
If you are looking for even more insights about how to tell if a Libra man is playing you, then also check out this video:
How To Beat A Libra Man At His Own Game?
While it’s important to remember that you deserve better than being used, here are some ways to handle a Libra man who is playing you. Taking revenge is never the solution. Realize that your Libra man is acting this way because of his own insecurities and fear of commitment.
He may even have mentioned to you in the past that he isn’t interested in something serious, but we women have a tendency to think that we can change a man or that he will eventually come around. I am here to tell you that this rarely happens and it’s important to listen to his words and believe them.
Instead of trying to change him, focus on taking care of yourself and setting boundaries in the relationship from the get go so that you know that the two of you are on the same page and have clear expectations.
If he still is trying to play you despite your efforts, it may be time to reevaluate if this relationship is worth pursuing. Remember, you deserve someone who respects and values you. So when you let go and take the high road, you are opening yourself up to finding someone who will treat you with the love and respect you deserve. And there is no better revenge than that.
Does Your Libra Man Pull Away After Intimacy?
Does your Libra man pull away or get quiet when you’ve just had a deep emotional connection? Or does he seem to disappear just when you thought he was getting closer?
Have you felt confused by his hot and cold behavior?
If so, then he might have an avoidant attachment style.
He could be Dismissive Avoidant and completely terrified of commitment… Or he could be Fearful Avoidant and REALLY want commitment… But get scared when he feels himself getting closer to you.
If he has either one of these attachment styles, you’re going to end up feeling extremely confused at times.
And both are caused by childhood trauma…
When you can see the scared little boy inside him that had to shut down his feelings if he’s dismissive avoidant… Or have a parent not provide his needs consistently if he’s fearful avoidant…
It can make it easier to have empathy and compassion for his confusing and frustrating behavior.
But that won’t fix it.
And while advice on attachment styles can be helpful…
What you really need to stop this frustrating hot and cold cycle is to understand him better.
It will stop your Libra man from pulling back when you begin feeling closer. And it will accomplish this in only 30 days.
So no more crying yourself to sleep when he pulls back… No more feeling incredibly confused. And no more wondering what in the heck is going on with him…
Even if he has an avoidant attachment style.
With love and light,
Your friend and relationship Astrologer,